the things you can see only when you slow down

If we sit too far away, we cannot feel the warmth. If we sit to close for too long, we become hot and possibly burned. “.the art of maintaining a good relationship can be compared to sitting by a fireplace. In some cases, one’s zealous efforts can get in the way of achieving the desired outcome, especially if one is unable to see the needs of the others working toward it together.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. It takes wisdom to discern that these two are not always related. Getting the job done well is more important than one’s feelings of doing a good job. But in our excitement, we make the mistake of equating our own eagerness with effectiveness. “When we’re first given a job, especially one we’ve been working toward for a long time, it’s easy to become overly enthusiastic, as we are eager to prove ourselves. They, too, dissipate on their own.īut if you take them too seriously and start internalizing them as part of your identity, then you will resuscitate them every time you think about the past.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. They are just passing through, like clouds in the sky. Just like you can’t control the weather, of your boss’ mood, you can’t control the feelings in your body. “Feelings are often born from a matrix of conditions beyond your control. We are in the midst of change even now.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. Things I enjoy now that I am older: Mozart, brown rice, meditation, spending time alone, regular exercise. “Things I liked when I was young but now couldn’t care less about: Airplane rides, all-you-can-eat buffet, horror movies, staying up all night. When you cannot control even your own mind, what makes you think you can control others?” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. Because memories are, in essence, thoughts.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. As your thoughts quiet, so, too, the memories. Notice that your thoughts subside when you focus on the present. “Do memories cause you pain? Practice being in the present moment. Now yours does not seem so bad after all.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. Nothing is intrinsically good or bad.Ĭompare your situation with someone’s that is worse. You should change how you look at the situation. “If you’ve been unable to change a bad situation, even after many attempts, Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. We see it’s not the situation that is troubling us,

People react differently to the same situation.

Or think it’s fun that I don’t have to grab a handrail.

The things you can see only when you slow down